Tag: introspection

Apples and Oranges

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Being inquisitive is a good thing. It shows interest and an eagerness to learn.

To show an appreciation for something new or different is a good thing too. It also shows interest and an eagerness to learn. But more importantly, it shows a willingness to include all things deemed valuable.

Seeking validation from and blind loyalty to people, places, and things that do not show you direct favor or provide you direct benefit shows extreme desperation. It shows a lack of intelligence and a lack of self-respect.

A more subtle example of this is the attempt to look or act like someone else.

The result is the very same and all of it shows that you do not know yourself.

 

There is a difference between you trying to look your best and you trying to look like someone who looks nothing like you.

There is a difference between you learning things that refine your style and you mimicking someone who has very little in common with you.

There is a difference between you adding value to yourself by being a better you and you adding value to someone else with your impossible attempts to not be you.

 

Who, of any value whatsoever, prefers an imitation over the real thing?

 

The world is watching.

You show us how much you value or do not value yourself.

It is not always someone else who devalues you and those like you.

You have a mind. You have an identity. You have a culture.

When you value yourself, you uplift your value.

You celebrate you.

And you always keep yourself in the best light.

What You Want

Know Thyself

It’s covered, yes?

Have you discovered what matters to you? Who you want to be? Or even if what you are doing, how you spend your time, or the people you surround yourself with support this?

Consider these questions. Focus what you do want rather than what you do not want.

It is infinitely easier to attain a thing when you know exactly what it is.

So rather than simply making and meeting goals, just getting by, or checking off items on a list

dare to dream, to aspire.

Open yourself to the possibilities. Be flexible in your thinking, your expectations, and perspective.
Explore and cultivate new interests. Broaden your horizons.

You know where you’ve been.
You know your values.
Decide what you want and begin moving toward your future.

Your life will always be a result of your choices.

And remember, you can change your mind at any time :)

Have Some Pride

Through the lens of

your values and
your family history,

consider your personal successes and failures.

Be sure that this examination comes from your own perspective.

Right now, you’re the only one doing the evaluating :)

Check for Inconsistency

You insist, struggle, and fight your way to an outcome that you ultimately do not want. Success?

Look Honestly at the Failures

You become someone neither you, your family, nor society in general respects in order to obtain material things. Winning?

Your own Perspective Matters but be Realistic

You experience a loss that yields an invaluable lesson and places you in a much better place afterward. Failure?

pride n positive: dignity, a feeling of honor, or a satisfied sense of one’s position or character; negative: excessive self-esteem, conceit, arrogance.

Your successes and failures are your personal experiences. They are the source of your self-respect and self-worth. Along with your values and family history, they make up your foundation.

In general, they are not anyone else’s business. They are yours. Personal. Practice discretion.

When you share the “good” parts to lift yourself higher, beyond the best light, it is considered arrogant . . . negative . . . unattractive.

When you share the “bad” parts for sympathy or compassion, it is considered needy . . . negative . . . unattractive.

Others have their own family history, values, and experiences.

They may or may not share your sentiments regarding your personal business.

Don’t expect them to.

Have some pride.