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Chore, Nag, and Ultimately, an Ex

Top 5 ways to sabotage an otherwise stable relationship

  1. Repeat yourself more than twice even though it isn’t, hasn’t, and shows no signs of working.
  2. Assume he knows what you want instead of maturely communicating it to him.
  3. Complain often. Bonus: pepper your criticisms with “you always”, “you never”, and other absurd leaps of reality.
  4. Never or rarely verbalize a please or a thank you or if you do, add sarcasm.
  5. Be unashamedly selfish.

Want an all encompassing time-tested, proven, and easy to remember tip?

Whenever you are dissatisfied, insist on being right.

Firmly establish the fact that you place priority on being right not the relationship, his feelings, or even solving the problem.

That’s it.

To simple to be true, you say?

Try it out.

On the other hand,

To put yourself over the top in an otherwise stable relationship,

Whenever you are dissatisfied, come up with a solution which produces an acceptable outcome for everyone involved.

Also a time-tested, proven, and easy to remember tip. This one, however, requires femininity, critical thinking, and the desire to be partner rather than a dictator (the sole leader).

This indicates that you place priority on the relationship, flexibility, and the ability to get along through the ups and downs of a relationship.

This will set you apart in a major way.

As always, you have the freedom to choose.

Choose wisely.

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Are You Relationship Material?

There are many types of relationships. Friendship, romantic, work . . .

For your relationships to not only survive but to thrive

Must haves in no particular order

  1. a positive, cheerful disposition – self-confidence, sincerity, direct eye contact
  2. an attitude of appreciation and gratitude – pay compliments, use of please and thank you
  3. a genuine interest in other people’s lives – acknowledgment of another’s successes, important dates, events
  4. the ability to avoid/resolve conflict – seek first to understand, then to be understood
  5. the ability to communicate clearly and effectively – think before speaking, say what you mean and mean what you say

Relationships are investments. They take time and attention.

You are either willing to put in the effort or you aren’t.

For varying reasons, every relationship will not be worth the effort.

Be selective. Don’t invest prematurely.

Check for accountability, respect, and reciprocity at the barest minimum.

Know thyself. Know your values.
Be authentic. Respect yourself and your values.

You will become like those you choose to surround yourself with.
It is in your best interest to seek and maintain relationship exclusively with those who will keep you on your toes.

Respect yourself and your values.

Most importantly,
be the kind of person you seek.

Water Seeks Its Own Level

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Yes, It’s That Simple

A man’s greatest fear is insignificance. His sense of self-worth arises out of his accomplishments. They arise out of his need for self-admiration and primal belief that he can accomplish anything that he sets his mind to conquer. Men measure themselves and other men by accomplishments.
from What Women Never Hear

Simple translation: only he can create his significance.

significance (n) importance; consequence; the quality of being significant or having a meaning.

While either may occur as a result of significance, neither fame nor money equal significance. Be clear.

If he is insignificant, catching a catch implies significance. Unfortunately, she has accepted him in an unworthy state and he knows it. He will lose respect for her.

For the feminine woman, simply avoid insignificant men and most especially those who attempt to obtain significance through immoral and/or illegal means.

If he is significant, ultimately only a catch will do.

Be a catch!

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