No one can persuade another to change.
Each of us guards a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside.
We cannot open the gate of another, either by argument or by emotional appeal.
- Marilyn Ferguson
You can only control you.
Choosing to focus on what other people do or do not do entangles you in
your version of their problem
rather than
your vision of your solution.
Invictus
Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.- William Ernest Henley
Making excuses, pointing fingers, and assigning blame to anyone or anything is a flashing neon sign of a simple-minded adult.
The successes and failures of your life rest on you.
The rest of the world recognizes and accepts this. If you don’t, you will be judged as less than, treated accordingly, and left behind.
desperation (n) recklessness arising from despair; the state of being desperate
desperate (adj) having lost all hope; driven by great need or distress; acting out of extreme urgency or as a last resort
Both men and women can sense desperation. Only those intent on exploitation are attracted by it. Everyone else is repulsed by it.
Be confident, worthy, and secure . . . because faking it just does not work.
